I Don’t Want to Talk About it

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Discuss politics? No, thank you.

There are several reasons for this. The first is that I am not the most knowledgeable person on political topics, so I’m not really in a position to debate policy with you. Also, I work with the public and so taking sides can mean alienating a customer, or presenting a look that is not the best for my employer. But mostly, I just don’t enjoy it.

I usually decline to get into a political conversation and will plead ignorance on the topic. I do not want to voice an opinion only to be greeted with random facts that start with “Well, did you know. . .? ” No. No, I did not. And I don’t know that it’s even a fact based on just you telling me it is. Let’s face it. Knowing fact from fiction gets harder every day. So if it will put an end to the conversation, I will readily admit you know more about it than I do, and therefore, there is no reason to discuss it.

I’m in an occupation where I have conversations with many different people on a daily basis. Trust me, I never bring it up, but many people feel the need to slide it into our conversation. They’ll say, “I don’t know who you support, but. . . ” or “Not to get political, but . . .” So I often plead the fifth. I’ll just smile when someone insists on sharing their opinions with me. I never share my political affiliation, minor though it may be, and I do my best to discourage the conversation. The most they’ll get from me is “that’s very frustrating.”

Because it’s always a complaint, isn’t it? The people I know who claim to know the most about politics–the supposed “informed” people–are angry, bitter, or sad. That’s on both sides of the aisle. Doesn’t matter which side you’re on. And conversation usually takes the form of complaining about the “others.” It’s almost always about people. What this one is doing or what that one is doing. Whether or not their guy is the one in power, they will still take any opportunity to disparage those who are in opposition to their views. Seems to me that conversations of this sort always leave everyone feeling worse. There’s not a lot to be optimistic about when someone begins the conversation with a complaint. And if they’re hoping to change someone’s mind, well, that never happens.

I had someone in my office several days ago who was so disgusted and upset about something she had seen on social media that she honestly seemed depressed and completely anxious about the whole thing. I was genuinely concerned for her state of mind. I’m certain that if I were analyzing everything and compulsively watching news and social media each day, that I would certainly be angrier and more anxious too. That doesn’t feel like a healthy place for anyone to be. It must be a full time job for the informed. It certainly is for many people I see on social media. It certainly is for my recent, distraught customer. And its a job that doesn’t pay well financially, or emotionally.

And trust me, I respect all opinions. Let’s face it, no political party is “right” on every issue. I even know that often I might be wrong, based on the facts. Also, I admire their passion. I too love our country, and believe that democracy is a great thing. I just don’t often recognize democracy in our current political systems. I am neither a historian nor a political science student, but I think the point of democracy was for people with differing opinions to work together to find the best solution for everyone. Or in the absence of agreement, for a vote to take place so the majority can decide.

I do watch the news. But how much news is too much? Is there such a thing as being too informed? And how do you ensure that you’re hearing both sides? I know the channels I watch are biased. It’s very clear to me. But that doesn’t mean I agree with all of their assessments. I try to think about the “issue” vs the “individual,” using my own moral code, and respect for our history and tradition and values of our country.

I also vote. And that’s one recommendation I can make to everyone. It might be the only power we have, and the only thing we can all agree on in terms of what we should be doing. When I vote, I consider my feeling about what is “right,” and “ethical,” both of these terms encompassing my own belief system, no doubt with it’s foundation in my upbringing. Your feelings about what is right might be different from mine. That’s great! that’s what Democracy is all about. I will continue to respect your opinion, and we can still be friends, just don’t try engaging me in a conversation on voting day.

In my perfect world, we could have a conversation together and share our opinions with each other, listen to one another. This might lead to each of us being better able to see the other person’s perspective, and ultimately could lead to a solution that satisfies both of us. And in the absence of that utopian process, I respectfully decline to talk about it.

Maximizing Your Brain Power

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While you may have heard that we only use a very small percent of our brain–I’ve heard as low as 10%–turns out, that’s not true. Current thinking and studies suggest that most people actually use most of their brain. Imaging studies can see different areas of our brain being active during different functions or activities. While some portion of our brain is always active, by studying the brain during different types of activities, we can see that most of our brain is used in our daily lives. In fact, most of our brain is active during most of our daily activities.

Our brain is the most complex organ in our body. It weighs about 3 pounds and contains about 100 billion neurons that carry information to, and from, other parts of our body, at speeds of up to 250 miles per hour! The brain represents 2 percent of our body weight but uses 20 percent of our oxygen and calories. It is 73 percent water. The average brain generates 48 thoughts per minute. That’s almost one every second, and 70,000 thoughts per day!

Clearly, our brains are essential to our survival. Every single thing we will do today involves our brain: Motor function and coordination, taste, smell, sights and sounds, all of our thoughts and feelings, decision making and impulse control, functioning of all of our organs, both voluntary and involuntary, memories, and speech. So keeping our brains healthy should be a top priority. Our memory and cognitive skills actually begin to decline as early as our late 20s, so it seems pretty obvious that we would want to start as soon as possible to keep our brains functioning at top capacity, for all the years that we’ll need them. In addition to being necessary for the daily functions of our life, and being able to maintain our social connections, we also want to continue to learn and experience new things. A well-functioning brain will ensure we can learn new things, and learning new things will help to keep our brains healthy, so each reinforces the other.

Before we talk about what keeps our brains healthy, let’s talk about some conditions that can develop from an unhealthy brain. There are many types of irregular brain conditions. We often think of memory diseases like dementia when we think of brain health. Dementia is a broad term meaning decline in memory, language and problem solving abilities. Alzheimers is a condition and is the most common cause of dementia. There are numerous other conditions that are the result of a brain disorder, including ALS, autism, brain tumors, epilepsy, Parkinson’s and strokes. Some of these are present from birth, and aren’t the result of any actions on our part, while others develop over our lifetime, and may be facilitated, or exacerbated by our lifestyle. Strokes, for example, are often seen in patients with high blood pressure, obesity, smoking, and poor diet. All of these risk factors can be partially, if not completely eliminated with some healthy choices.

Brain Health is dependent on three main factors: Diet, Exercise, and Lifestyle. The good news is that these elements are also good for your body and physical health, so while you’re working on your physical health, you’re also strengthening your brain. Let’s take a look at why each of these is helpful, and what specifically we can do to maximize our brain health.

Diet:

Healthy eating in general will reduce your chances of developing diabetes, heart disease and high blood pressure, conditions that are known to increase risk for dementia. In addition, staying hydrated is very important for our brains. Remember the note above: Our brains are 73 percent water. Being dehydrated by as little as 2 percent can impair our ability to perform tasks requiring attention, memory, and motor skills. In addition to healthful eating, and staying hydrated, the following dietary elements may be beneficial to brain health:

  • Vitamin E and Beta Carotene promote brain health. For vitamin E, look for Fruits and vegetables with dark skins, such as spinach, broccoli, and blueberries. Leafy greens are also rich in B vitamins, which play a role in brain health. Those rich in beta carotene include red peppers and sweet potatoes
  • Oily fish, which contains omega 3s can help prevent brain shrinkage and support cognitive function. Seek out salmon, mackerel, and tuna
  • Walnuts and pecans are rich in antioxidants, which promote brain health
  • Dark chocolate and coffee have been shown to improve memory and brain performance
  • Caffeine can help perk you up, promote energy, and improve your focus

While no clear link has been established between certain vitamins and memory, the benefits of vitamins in general are clear. Most experts also agree that getting your vitamins from food sources is always preferable to a vitamin supplement. Supplements are not strictly regulated in the US and don’t have to prove that they work. Studies suggest they probably don’t, so skip the over the counter brain and memory boosters.

Exercise:

Regular physical exercise has been shown to boost the size of the hippocampus, the area of the brain involved in verbal memory and learning. Physical activity can also lower risk of heart disease, high blood pressure, and diabetes, all of which increase the risk for dementia. You can further improve your physical, and brain health, by mixing up your fitness routines, incorporating endurance, strength and flexibility exercises. This will not only improve your physical health, but the variety also keeps your brain sharp. Exercise will also help you reduce stress, and sleep better, both of which will keep your brain, and memory, healthy.

Lifestyle:

Aside from diet and exercise, there are other things you can do–or not do–that will benefit your brain health. Start by cutting out cigarettes and excessive alcohol. Smoking is a major risk factor for both dementia, and strokes. It can cause brain swelling, which may contribute to cognitive decline. Alcohol can impair the effectiveness of neurotransmitters in the brain, and also destroy brain cells. Alcohol can also increase your risk of mental health problems, and dementia.

Avoid multitasking. The brain can’t learn or concentrate on two things at once, but it can quickly switch back and forth between tasks and thoughts, so it feels like you’re successfully multitasking. In reality, doing so decreases your attention span, ability to learn, short-term memory, and overall mental performance. So when possible, complete one task before beginning the next. And if you know you need a relatively large chunk of time, schedule the task when you know you have a good chance of not being interrupted.

Stress and depression can cause brain shrinkage, and are risk factors for dementia. So try to reduce stress. I know, easier said than done! Meditation and deep breathing have been found to not only reduce stress and depression, but also to improve memory and attention. Cultivate relationships with the people in your life who are positive and who make you feel better about yourself, and your life. Social contact can provide a sense of connection and purpose, and just the act of conversation forces your brain to use language and vocabulary skills, further sharpening your brain. Spiritual activities such as religion, meditation and practicing gratitude have similar benefits of purpose and support and offer the same benefits as your social interactions.

Other ways to reduce stress include volunteering, and getting outdoors. Helping other people, and getting in tune with nature, are calming, feel-good activities. And don’t be afraid to ask for help. Delegate tasks if you’re feeling overwhelmed. Whether at work, or at home, there is likely someone who is willing, and able, to help.

Lastly, to reduce stress, don’t forget the best medicine, laughter! Sources of laughter can be found everywhere, including your personal friendships, a YouTube video of silly animals, or a live or recorded comedy skit. Counseling can help many of us to reduce stress. It’s good to share feelings of anxiety with someone who is not only objective, but also trained in ways to help you cope. And always seek counseling if you feel your stress, sadness or depression, has gotten worse or is seriously affecting your life.

Get enough sleep. Lack of sleep can affect your mood, energy, focus, and overrall function. In addition, memories get cemented while you sleep, so getting your 7-9 hours will help you to recall those important facts when you need them.

If your goal is to keep your brain sharp, there are strategies to improve those odds. Games are a good way to challenge your brain, and keep those neurotransmitters firing. Try crosswords, puzzles, crafts, sodoku, playing cards, and books. Studies have shown that those who used brain training exercises decreased their risk of dementia by 29 percent. It doesn’t have to be a scientifically created program. Just challenge your brain in as many different ways as possible. We’ve all had days when we drive to work, and can’t remember the drive at all. That kind of programming is not creating the new pathways that are beneficial to our brains. So your brain training doesn’t have to be superchallenging. Just shake up your daily routine with small changes like taking a different route to work, making a brand new dish for dinner, or reaching out to a friend you haven’t spoken to in a while. It should go without saying, that screentime, and in particular, social media, do NOT challenge your brain. So limit the scrolling and pick up a book, or invite your besties or family for a game night.

Most people get worried about their memory as they age. A declining memory is definitely a reality of aging, and most times is not reason for concern. Forgetting someone’s name, or why you went into your bedroom, are normal, especially as we get older. Speak to a doctor if you, or a loved one, is unable to remember the purpose of objects–like what a hairbrush is used for, or if you’re getting lost while walking or driving in an area that should be familiar–or if its affecting your ability to complete daily chores, like taking longer to complete a task that involves multiple steps. If you realize your memory issues are normal, and not signaling a more serious condition, there are some ideas you can try to improve your ability to remember, particularly in a certain area like an upcoming test, or wanting to better remember people’s names when you meet them:

  • Use images to remember facts; our brains process images faster than words, and making it silly will make it easier to remember; example: To remember the last name Rosenfield, picture the person running through a large field surrounded by rose bushes
  • Use an acronym, like RoyGBiv (the famous acronym to remember the colors of the rainbow) or use a silly phrase: To remember multiple people you met at a party: Richard, David, Sally, John, Savannah: Red Dogs Seem Just Super
  • Say it out loud: If I say, I am putting my keys on the dresser, out loud, I’m more likely to remember that later when I’m looking for my keys; better yet, tell someone else
  • Write it down or draw a picture

Our brains are vital to all facets of our lives and keeping them functioning at peak capacity will ensure that we can live our best lives. There are many things you can do every day to improve your brain’s performance, and keep it running in top condition and for the most part, the best practices for your brain will also benefit the rest of your body, and will lead to a healthy, active life for all the years to come.